Dear Fixers and Rescuers,
As we dive into the holiday season, a time often characterized by giving, supporting, and being there for others, I want to address a heartfelt message specifically to you—the fixers and rescuers in our lives.
Amidst the festivities and gatherings, it’s crucial to recognize that your role as the perpetual problem solver and the constant support for everyone else can be especially taxing during this time. The holiday rush might amplify your desire to be there for everyone, but it’s equally important, if not more so, to be there for yourself.
Consider this a public service announcement: you have permission to hit the pause button on being the go-to solution for every problem. This holiday season, I urge you to focus on self-care as a means of preserving your well-being amidst the hustle and bustle.
Acknowledging your own limits doesn’t diminish your caring nature; it strengthens it. Embrace the notion that you deserve care too. Just as a candle cannot provide light when it’s burnt out, you cannot offer your best support when you’re emotionally, mentally, or physically depleted.
Set boundaries. Learn to gracefully decline additional tasks or commitments when it becomes overwhelming. Remember, saying no to one thing often means saying yes to yourself and your well-being.
This holiday season, take moments for yourself. Engage in activities that rejuvenate your spirit, whether it’s taking a quiet walk adorned with winter scenery, enjoying a favorite book by a crackling fire, or simply spending quality time with loved ones without the added pressure of being the fixer.
Understand that by nurturing yourself, you’re not neglecting your duties to others. Instead, you’re ensuring that you’re in the best shape to offer genuine support and care when it’s needed.
Remember, the holiday season doesn’t equate to being everything for everyone. It’s about sharing joy, love, and warmth—something you can’t give if your own flame is flickering.
So, this season, let’s flip the narrative. Prioritize yourself. Acknowledge your needs. By doing so, you’re setting a valuable example for others, showing that self-care is essential, especially during a time when giving tends to overshadow personal well-being.
Wishing you a season filled with self-compassion, rejuvenation, and moments of true joy,
Adrienne
